25 things every woman needs to know.

1) Life is a steep, uphill battle but it’s fierce & it’s beautiful & you’ll be sad to see it go if you live it right.

2) New people won’t stop coming into your life and opportunities won’t stop knocking on the door but you need to have the space for them. In all you currently have– be them relationships or obligations– step back and ask yourself “why.” If you can find the answer, hold tighter. If the answer escapes you, it’s time to let something go.

3) You should resolve to be awesome for the rest of your life. Right now. Do it.

4) Leggings, no matter how much we wish, will never one day magically transform into pants. Wearing them with tops that don’t cover your bum is not cute. Please, please, please stock up on pants.

5) Goals are not a January 1st kind of thing. Set them weekly. Set them monthly. Set them so that you are moving forward and always trying to progress. Life can grow stagnant without them… beware.

6) Tuna and barbeque sauce are as unlikely a couple as Sandy and Danny from Grease. However, they go together. They go together like rama lama lama ke ding a de dinga a dong. Don’t gag at the computer, I promise I am not fooling you. Mix the two together with some brown rice and you’ve got a bomb.com lunch.

7) Confidence is a sexy thing. Guys dig it. Girls dig it. We all dig it.

8) I agree with Bruno Mars and, if I were a good singer, I’d serenade you alongside him in singing how I hope he buys you flowers… and holds your hands… and takes you to parties if you like to dance. You deserve that. Always. Don’t think you should have less than that. You are worthy beyond words, gal.

9) And maybe Bruno Mars should be president because he’s also right to say that you are amazing. Just the way you are. No frill. No big introductions. You’re unlike anyone else and you should lean into that every morning. Every evening. Every hour.

9.5) Knowing your states & geography is a really precious thing. As a recovering “I didn’t pay attention in Geography class and forgot my states one by one so that boys would think I was ditzy & cute, and it was, in fact, ditzy & cute until the day I made the mistake of asking everyone in Missouri how they liked living down south,” I can say firsthand that it’s really wonderful to know that Russia isn’t on top of the US and that Delaware is, in fact, a state. The moral of this bloated story: guys have never wanted us to be stupid. They actually like brain cells. It’s a wonder & a mystery but they really kind of, sort of, definitely like girls with a noggin. ALL HAIL THE LADIES WHO LIKE HTML CODING & UNDERSTAND MARXIST THEORY!! HOLLAAAA!!! WE WINNNN AFTER ALL THESE YEARSSSS!!

10) Your spirit will never benefit from shallow people. You gotz to cut the toxic out of your life, boo.

11) And if you make mean comments, and you talk about people behind their back without ever trying to love them or see where they are coming from, you MIGHT be the toxic one. Oof. I’m not trying to burn you, just trying to say that relationships are too valuable to muddy them up with what you perceive to be the shortcomings of someone else. Big girls do bigger things than that.

12) So yea, I’ll drive the point home: gossip is shallow and stupid. Hobbies are better. Social good is best ;)

13) Nude pumps. They’re good for the soul. They are a must-have in any serious closet. Buy a pair one day and I can promise your whole entire style statement will benefit from them.

14) Here’s the truth: you are going to waste a lot of hours focusing on who you are not, or who you want to secretly be. But you won’t ever wake up and actually be that person. You’ve got to embrace what you bring to the table. If you don’t like what that is, have the courage to change it.

15) The world does not revolve around us. Turns out that we are just little points of punctuation in a much bigger story glittered with periods & commas & dashes. How are you helping that story to be better? How are you being the best dang point of punctuation that you can be?

16) If you ever find yourself frying Oreos on the stove top (and being an absolute BOSS at it), do not, I REPEAT, do not take the simmering pot of grease straight from the stove and pour it directly into the sink. The thing will straight up explode… And grease will fly everywhere… And you will risk burning your pretty little face off… And then everyone will probably call you “Vat of Grease Face” or “Grease Lightning” (what is with all the Grease references, Hannah?!) for the rest of your life… And, if they do, you can refer them to this blog post and tell them to read point #11. But still, dump the grease outside and keep your face intact.

17) If you want to run a serious business, if you want people to take you seriously, then start your engine and sign out some library books. Business books are proof that God loves us. Lean In by Sheryl Sandberg will make you a better leader. Seth Godin is the dude you wanted to take the prom all these years and never knew it until you cracked open his book “Tribes.”

18) No matter how tech savvy we get, there is a need to say things to a person’s face. Please, for the love of lovelier things, have the courage to call someone up and verbalize your thoughts or meet for a coffee. Breaking a heart is hard stuff, stopping a relationship is never fun, but there will never be anything as loud as this statement: You are worth my words. You are worth my presence. You are worth, and will always be worth, more than just letters on a screen and a broken heart jammed in the crooks of an overflowing inbox. Face to face connections are fading faster, please don’t let them get away…

19) First impressions are important. Really. That truth never changes. So refer to point #4. Really meditate on it.

20) No matter what kind of interview you are gearing up for, there are certain standards you should always hold yourself to: wearing something other than jeans, not talking out your phone during the interview, sending a handwritten note afterwards. An interview means you want something but it doesn’t mean they have to give it to you.

21) Regret is a real thing. It’s going to happen. It’s going to come clomp-clomp-clomping into your life at some point. Don’t hold onto things forever but learn from them and let the past go. The past will be a dictator if you let her.

22) You never want to be the COTS (chick on the side). Girls, GIRLS!!!! IF A GUY HAS A GIRLFRIEND AND HE IS STILL TRYING TO COMMUNICATE WITH YOU IN A “YOU ARE THE ONE THAT I WANT” WAY, DO NOT FALL FOR IT. HE SHOULD MAN UP AND ACTUALLY LET THE OTHER GIRL GO. IF HE DOES NOT THEN WALK AWAY. WALK AWAY. WALK AWAY. You are worth so much more than second string in relationships. And being a COTS is not an endearing title. Be the better lady and hop off his swag; you are breaking the heart of girl you don’t even know without ever really meaning to. (And truthfully: real men aren’t interested in finding another gal, they’re too wrapped up in loving the face off the one they already have.)

23) The women’s section of Old Navy and Target has failed us. If you ever really want to fully embrace to “oversize” look then just frolic over the men’s section. All those flannels you’ve been tugging at, wishing they would actually be “oversize,” are hanging out in the men’s section waiting to kiss your elbows with their flannelish lips. Roll up the sleeves and get going. And then wear them leggings having no shame at all!

24) Facebook is a tricky thing. This is an invitation to step back and ask yourself, should I really post that? In the days of diaries, we never had to worry about this. Now all that we say is a microphone so be very, very careful. Here’s a link to all the best quotes from Maya Angelou. The next time you feel like posting something really ugly that you are going to regret, take a stab at one of these instead: http://www.goodreads.com/author/quotes/3503.Maya_Angelou

25) Darling, darling–the victim song is never going to fit you. It will never be good enough for your lungs. It will never be good enough for your time. You are stronger than you know and more graceful than you know. Don’t let the parts of you that want to be a victim live on any longer. You’ve got a voice… you’ve got a story… Do us all a favor and use it. Without any apologies. Without any stepping back. If ever you need a listener, come find me…

396 thoughts on “25 things every woman needs to know.

    1. A friend sent this to me and I’m so grateful they did. Each and every point I want plastered in my house somewhere. Point #25 has me in tears and needing a hug, but thank you, thank you so much. :)

    2. Beautiful , inspiring and encouraging and a lovely reminder to indulge in this life , live it out in Love and gratitude EVERY DAY

      1. Just so you know, if you cover hot grease and move it, air will get under the lid and it will also explode – been there done that. Not fun!

  1. Oh my gosh, this post, and your whole blog, is fantastic!

    I vehemently support #4. I am not ashamed to admit that I told a girl in an Old Chicago bathroom that “leggings are not pants.” Her top came mid-waist. Not a good look for anyone.

    1. *sigh* LEGGINGS CAN BE PANTS.
      Tights on the other hand cannot.
      see through leggings should not be worn as pants. that’s the only exception.
      and crop tops with leggings are in fashion right now. it does look good on some people. it’s not for everyone.

      1. LOL! I agree! I love this essay,. But I am a non-pants wearer…too confining. Now, I make sure my bum is covered if I am wearing yoga pants or something of a similar nature.

      2. Crop tops with leggings look adorable. On my tall lanky 11yo daughter. Anyone older than about middle school maybe should rethink that idea.

    1. Miss you lovely. I am always sending mucho amounts of love your way. And hanging out all the time with Adam Rawlings!!! He needs to come hang out in your kitchen and learn how to make some soup!

  2. Hannah, you do it over and over again. I am always intrigued and inspired by your posts. Keep it up girl! I’m a huge fan.

  3. As Missourian I can attest to the fact that some people call it South; others call it north. We are a southern-northern state or a nothern-southern state depending on the day, who you ask and where you are! =)

    You hit it out of the bark, once again, my dear!

    1. They call it ‘south’ because Missouri sided with the south in the civil war, correct? Not because of where it is actually geographically located.

      1. Missouri was a split state… Missouri is apparently just really confused. (Also, as a Missourian, I say I’m Midwestern haha)

  4. Every one of your blog posts is better than the last. Always inspiring, heart warming and funny. You are amazing!

  5. Hannah,

    Yes! As I read through this other than maybe the shoes, I think it applies just as well to men.

    When I read #25, my heart ached as I thought of all the time I have used my voice to perfect the verses in a song I never wanted to learn the words to.

    It is time to be fierce and break the covenant I made with myself to not be happy. This is the life I have to live…

      1. So could I – but as someone whose romantic relationships fall under the heading of “committed non-monogamy” (Polyamoury, for anyone playing the alternative relationship vocabulary home game), I think mine would be a very different book. Takes all kinds, ladies. ;)

        Really, though, this a wonderfully thoughtful list and a lovely read. Thanks. :)

  6. It would not be possible to love this more! I may print it out and start handing it out on the street to every woman I know, but I’m going to start with my 19 year old twin daughters. Thank you!

  7. Hi, Hannah! I’m just sending you the 10 dollars by mail. I don’t know why the pay pal isn’t working right. :( May I please have your address again? Laura and I loved our “Brew Session” with you! Love, MB

    1. thank you, love. Never the intention. I write from the heart with no hope or intention to ever offend anyone, have not an offensive bone in my body so I apologize if parts did not sit pretty with you.

    2. Funny, I did not read it that way. I did not interpret Hannah’s comments as suggesting you be smart to grab a man but rather condemning the notion that we should be (or act) silly to attract a man. More a suggestion that if you just be your smart, confident self, the world including men will respond well.

  8. From one Hannah to another, I’d have to agree with Nora on the Missouri name game. I’m from Missouri as well, but much farther south, so for at least half the state you nailed it ;) geography didn’t fail you too bad!

    I would love to thank you for another must-read post. It never fails to make my heart flutter when I see a new email update in my inbox! I’ve taken your blog, and the love letters campaign, with me to college. Whenever I love a post or bundle I shove my computer screen in the face of whoever is near me and force them to read it (quiet frankly I’m shocked my friends aren’t blind yet from all the screen light when I ambush them late at night).

    I thank you from the deepest corner of my heart for the hope, wisdom & love you manage to spill into each post. It has helped me (and my friends) get through a lot, both dark and light. You manage to discuss things we’ve felt, gone through, thought, hoped and dreamt about with such grace.

    xoxo god bless!

  9. This post needs to be printed out and passed around to every girl in the world. Just saying. I’m going to start by giving this to all my friends.

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  11. What an awesome way to start a holiday weekend…..with such great, amazing inspiration and wisdom……you rock!!!!!! Don’t we all in our own special ways!!!!!!!:)

  12. I could relate to nearly all of these posts (especially my feelings about leggings)… thanks so much for making me laugh!!!

  13. #14… When I turned 40, I full on embraced that. I had dabbled in it some before but at 40 it was ON like Donkey Kong. Only wish I’d done it 15 years earlier but better late than never!

  14. #22 made my day. I’ve struggled with that for a while now and it made me see it from both ways. Totally made me think differently and your right. Good sense of humor too. I’m glad I read this!

  15. I read this post a day after just having to go through one of the toughest break-ups I’ve ever been through. I cannot thank you enough for these words Hannah. As a fellow writer, I really needed someone to put all of what I should be concentrating on ( which turns out to be MYSELF, who would’ve thought) into words and you put all of this in the most perfect way. I feel so much better and am no longer wallowing in heartbreak, but am holding my head up high, taking chances, and not looking back to my past to bring me down anymore. I want to thank you so much for doing this, and helping not only myself, but I’m sure thousands of women out there needing to see this.

  16. Ladies, take it from a 22 year old guy, this article is GOLD. Everything from the biggies like #5, 7, 14 (I could go on and on), to the “little things” like #16 make for a very well rounded women. This is an absolute gem of an article. Take notes girls!

  17. This was wonderful. A lot of these really hit home. I wish that every girl could read this and truly feel it. Thank you or the great reminders!

  18. Number 18, as someone who was dumped via text (after 5 years none the less) I have never felt more devalued as a person than that moment. I hope I never forget he value of making a fun call or meeting face to face. It connects in a way texting just can’t. Also I wish more people would send mail. Good old snail mail

  19. Know what else is awesome with tuna and brown rice? Italian dressing! ( I leave Oreo- frying to the professionals at the County Fair! lol)

  20. Disagree on leggings. The thing is, like many items of clothing, they are only as attractive as the woman who wears them. Gotta be fit. Can’t fake it.

  21. Please teach me what to wear with nude pumps. And please don’t say “anything” because we know that isn’t really true. There’s a pair that’s been sitting in my closet unworn for about three months now.

    1. Um…. Jeans? Black? Literally anything. Maybe just not something else nude since matching nudes is a pain. Other than that, literally anything….

  22. #18 had me in tears. I got dumped by text message, the day after I had a miscarriage. I am still reeling from it in many ways and struggling with value and worth, so your words really hit home. Thank you <#

    1. You are loved. Maybe by an anonymous person, maybe not with a full understanding of the awesomeness that is you. But you are loved. And if I could take you out for coffee to give you a hug and tell you to your face I would in a heart beat. <>

  23. Love #4. I am guilty of doing this, but only at the gym… That isn’t so bad, right? Every woman needs to REALLY listen to #22! Also, gonna go to my local library and check out the book Lean In. My mentor told me about this book too. It must be a good read and I want to lead! :)

  24. Awesome, wonderful, and so very appropriate! I’m sharing this with my Mom, sister, and daughter! Thank you!!!! I look forward to reading more of your work!!!
    With abundant blessings,

  25. I have one that I’d like you to consider adding.
    Be there for your friends during the bad times. Don’t just disappear and wait for it to work itself out. It’s not cool, it hurt’s and dang it, your girl needs you. You don’t have to say anything magical. Just listen and let your friend know that you care and that they aren’t alone.

  26. This was a great read! Thank you for this. Although I have heard some of this advice it is SO clear to me now that THIS IS WHAT WE NEED TO TEACH OUR DAUGHTERS!!!! The truth and not the fairytale..but to still HOPE!

  27. Love all except the tights. I like tights as pants. Fashion is a personal choice – I prefer to support my fellow women (and men) for being brave enough to wear what they like.

    1. agreed. This post is an encouragement to women. The leggings part is a little judgmental. Tights can actually be done very well as long as you know when and where to wear them. Loved the rest.

  28. Nice read, but nothing I’ve never heard before. I think we all know these things deep down, but it’s always good to be reminded. (I’m not talking about the Oreo bit) ;)

  29. Hey so, come to charleston SC (best city in the world?) sometime, and hang out with me and my best friend Sara. Your brilliant words here guarantee to me that we’ll have a stellar conversation and laugh our asses off.

  30. Aaaand you have a new fan :) You inspired me to get up off my surgery-recovering butt and start working on my novels again and just go be badass in general. Like I always have been. But I needed a reminder. So, thank you :)

  31. If you ever want to say something nasty write it on paper and throw it away. Cyberspace is forever, you will feel better about yourself, too.

  32. Reblogged this on it's sweet for certain and commented:
    What an awesome list!! My personal favorite is #14… “You’ve got to embrace what you bring to the table”

    It’s okay to be working on who we are, but we also need to be comfortable with who we are, where we are.

  33. Excellent points! I am sharing this with my daughter as she steps out for the first time and begins her journey thru college and life. May she follow these points, and may she become an independent, confident, joyful, and self-accepting and self-empowering woman!

  34. It’s funny how messages fall into your lap right when you need them most. I don’t know you, Hannah, but you’ve touched me (in a good way) and I thank you for it.

  35. Loved this ! I thought it would be about fashion only but you’ve got some great stuff here ! #3 is me, I live it every day!I’m 62 and made the decision I am who I am ! I have dropped toxic friends and am so glad I did. If I could add some of my wisdom it would be “Don’t waste a lot of time worrying about things,especially guys, worry is a huge waste of time and energy,it’s your worst enemy .”

  36. Do I have your approval to print and post in the LADIES’ ROOM??? At every high school? And college? THAAAAAAAAAAANK YOU!

  37. I like all this except for the nude shoes thing; maybe it’s bc I have skinny long legs and don’t need nude shoes to make my legs look longer by adding them to my feet?! (I know it’s a trend!)

  38. Number 4… thank goodness!! I hate it when girls wear leggings as pants. I’m just glad someone else agrees with me! Hallelujah!!

  39. It’s hilarious how so many of your girls and the author are miffed when other chicks wear leggings as pants. You’re going to have a very non-peaceful life if you’re easily aggravated by something someone does that affects you in no way whatsoever.

    One girl commented she told a complete stranger leggings aren’t pants?! hahah What a waste of time for her to do that.

    Instead, focus on living your life for you and don’t follow the advice of anybody. In the end, opinions are like buttholes. Everyone has one and 99.99% of them are not pretty.

  40. Thanks, Hannah!
    I know I’m much older than you are, but these truths are the truths at every age! I would say I wish I would known them 30 years ago, but I probably wouldn’t have listened.With wisdom comes age, if we’re lucky. :)

  41. So this morning I woke up excited. It felt like God had whispered ” I’ve got something for you today”. When I read this, I knew that this is what God wanted me to see, that this is what He had for me today!!! Points 9, 11, 12, 14 and 24 (but mostly 9 and 14) are doing it for me. This is awesome, you are awesome!!!! Can I repost this on my blog?? (Pwetty pweeeez)

  42. Admittedly, I don’t wear leggings without something that comes past the widest part of my hips, an exception to the “leggings aren’t pants” that you already pointed out. However, if you agree that leggings aren’t pants, most of the same complaints can be made about skinny jeans. Skinny jeans are just about as skin tight, but don’t even have the benefit of being ridiculously comfortable like leggings. And on top of that, unless you have stick legs and no hips, they look every bit as imbalanced as leggings. Food for thought. Boots seem to solve the skinny jean problem, but they solve the legging problem too. But maybe I’m just grumpy with pants in general, as I almost always wear skirts and dresses with leggings.

    1. I think for skinny pants, it depends on the shape of your body. If you are full figured you may wanna try some wider legged pants. I just lost like 15 lbs and Im loving my skinny jeans. They actually really slim me down and make my legs look nice, but 15 lbs ago, I would have said that I looked better in wide legged pants.

  43. Love all your advice. Very wise. Very true. However…the Leggings thing: I used to feel the same way (and still don’t wear leggings without a long shirt covering the rump). But. I realized along the way: Who am I to tell someone to hide a part of their body that I don’t find attractive. It’s like telling a girl to hide her freckles with make-up, to never wear a dress because it exposes her kankles, to cover up her wing-spanned flab-arms with a long-sleeved shirt. It’s shallow. So, ladies that have the strength to rock the leggings without fear of letting their junk-in-the-trunk bounce for the world to see: rock on with your bad self.

  44. My first time on your site & I loved it. Laughed hilariously at #4 (actually wearing them now, but don’t worry, got the bootay covered) and love #7. Thanks for your awesomeness!!

    -fellow Hannah

  45. You my dear have written an absolutely magnificent list. LOVE LOVE LOVE! They were witty, inspiring, funny, & downright AWESOME!

  46. This is the most phenomenal post! You’ve shown me quite a few aspects of how I, and a lot of people I know, are selling ourselves short. I mean really a fantastic post. Thank you so much for sharing it! I will be passing this on to my ladies for sure! Some of my boys too because quite frankly this is some seriously good life advice. :)

  47. Oh, all these bits could not have spoken to me more at this moment. Ya know when you’re in the dumps about love and life, then something gives you a kick in the ass? I’m appreciating it all and looking forward to tomorrow. It’s up to me to become even greater. Thank you!

  48. I like a lot of this, but I’m not a huge fan of people telling me what to wear and what not to wear. If I want to wear leggings as pants, I will. I look good in them. Who cares. As long as they aren’t “see-through,” and even then, that’s your prerogative. I wouldn’t wear them but others can if they wish.

  49. There are very few women, built like victoria’s secret models, that can pull off leggings like real pants. The rest of the women of the world(probably around 99% of us) should treat them like you mentioned: an add-on under shirts that are too long for shirts and too short for dresses. Sometimes I feel like bleaching my eyeballs. >.<

  50. I completely disagree with leggings not qualifying as pants. They most certainly do, so long as they are made of a sturdy enough material that remains opaque even when stretched! All hail leggings–the greatest pants on the face of the earth.

  51. Oh dear. I just bought leggings for the first time. I only did it because I wanted to show off my cute boots! But I promise you I never thought of wearing short shirts with it. Ever. Sadly, I’ve been a COTS. More than once. Because I don’t feel that I’m worthy or of value. Being convinced of that for 36 years by men who use you does that to a gal. Hard to break the cycle when it’s all you know. But I’m working on it with support of friends and family. I’ll get there.

  52. You’re amazing and your love letters project is so inspiring; I’ve sent out some letters and it feels great! (I know this might not be relevant to your post.) But thanks for what you do!

  53. I believe in #20 you mean to say “taking out your phone” instead of “talking out your phone.” Otherwise, you have some good stuff.

  54. I feel, deep down, that you should take some of your own advice. Referring to the face to face interactions, please record yourself saying these things to people in real life.

    I imagine.. “STOP! That Oreo WILL turn you from looking like beauty to beast in 2 seconds fizzy”
    Seriously though. Mad props bra. Mad.

  55. This is touching and funny – I love it. The last bit made me cry. It’s been a tough year and I needed to read this. I’d like to read more of your work and maybe one day I’ll be lucky enough to meet you. For now, I’m keeping this article close by. x

  56. Hannah…Shared this from a friend onto FB…nodded my head, shook my head, and lol-ed to the whole thing…re: leggings…my daughter had a pair… not even really leggings…more like footless tights, and tried to wear them with a too-short top AND a thong…glimpses of butt-crack…YIKES and then got mad when I pointed it out…I will be sharing this with her!

  57. #2,8 and 9 especially speak to me right now…. looking at a separation from my husband, holding on too long waiting for these things, but realize I need to make myself happy, I’m the only one in control of the things I want and I need to be strong enough to believe I’m worthy of going after them….. Thank you, thank you, thank you for this post!

  58. I love this post. Thank you for being so wise and having the voice that so many women need to hear! Number 14 is something I struggled with for years. I was jealous of what others had that I didn’t, sad if I hadn’t been to all the places I wished to go, and daily I would change my ‘style’ based on the outfits I had seen on others around me. Hours wasted feeling less than grateful for what I did have, and time misspent on changing my outfit a billion times because it didn’t look like Hers. Somewhere along the way I woke up and decided to just be me, and love doing so! I wear what I own and don’t go crazy or broke trying to BE something I am not. I focus on my graduate school and do things with intention, knowing I’ll do what I can when I can.
    Now, I often have women come up to me (many that I would have been jealous of 5 years ago) and compliment my outfits. It’s amazingly beautiful how far a little courage to ‘just be you’ can go.

    Thanks again for all 25 thoughts that many of us either needed to hear the first time, or be reminded of again, in order to live the life we were meant to. Well, that and to think twice before wearing leggings with anything that does not cover our bums!!

  59. I love this post. Thank you for being so wise and having the voice that so many women need to hear! Number 14 is something I struggled with for years. I was jealous of what others had that I didn’t, sad if I hadn’t been to all the places I wished to go, and daily I would change my ‘style’ based on the outfits I had seen on others around me. Hours wasted feeling less than grateful for what I did have, and time misspent on changing my outfit a billion times because it didn’t look like Hers. Somewhere along the way I woke up and decided to just be me, and love doing so! I wear what I own and don’t go crazy or broke trying to BE something I am not. I focus on my graduate school and do things with intention, knowing I’ll do what I can when I can.
    Now, I often have women come up to me (many that I would have been jealous of 5 years ago) and compliment my outfits. It’s amazingly beautiful how far a little courage to ‘just be you’ can go.

    Thanks again for all 25 thoughts that many of us either needed to hear the first time, or be reminded of again, in order to live the life we were meant to. Well, that and to think twice before wearing leggings with anything that does not cover our bums!!

  60. How did you pull everything I think out of my head and onto my computer screen. brilliant, if I do say so. Saving this for my daughter as we speak (with credits of course)…

  61. Oh sweetheart. You speak my language. Where have you been all my life? Thank you so much for this. It was exactly what I needed to hear (read) at this exact moment. Hearts, hearts, and more hearts.

  62. #25 speaks to me so much! I have been allowing myself to feel/be victimized for many years now and am just now taking the steps to get out from under that. Rock on! This post is awesome!

  63. I just found my way to you and this post by some totally random occurrence. Are there really coincidences and “accidents” or is there some individual manifest destiny that we all hitch a ride on? Hmm…not sure. Either way, I am glad I’m here. That post was badass…especially #4.

  64. Reblogged this on nothing in particular and commented:
    WordPress prompts me to write “my thoughts here” as a little side note to why I re-blogged this. My thoughts as I was reading were “re-blog, re-blog, hehe, re-blog, so true, re-blog, ooh that’s me, re-blog…”

  65. Instead of focusing on how leggings aren’t pants, you should have notified those who don’t know, that rain boots aren’t shoes. I’d rather see someone wearing leggings as pants than a dummy clopping around in rain boots at work, in class, or when there’s NO rain.

  66. Hey! This is great! I love your wise words and pragmatic points–to advocate for intelligence and against superficiality, while also noting that leggings aren’t pants.

  67. This is amazing. I want to read this every day. I think I will, because #s 9, 10, 11, 12, 14, and effin’ ALL OF THEM. Thank you for this.

  68. OK…I am a guy. But I am married to an amazing woman, and I have two amazing daughters and one amazing son who will someday be married to another amazing woman and hopefully have daughters as amazing as mine. So, I am qualified to, not only read this and pass it along to all of the amazing women in my life, but also to truly appreciate the messages within. Many apply to men and women (especially the nude pumps…whatever they are…all I know is that all guys like anything that has “nude” in it).

    Thanks for the insight and laughs and reflection-inducing wisdom.

    Oh…and thanks for the brilliant use of typography too!!!

  69. I love this and think it’s not just good advice for us ladies. Young men will benefit from these words of wisdom too! Thanks!

  70. Reblogged this on Fancy Panda Studios and commented:
    There are a lot of things I’d like my girls to know growing up. Over the course of the next several months, maybe I’ll start writing more about them. For now, however, I found a really great article that I enjoyed and I decided to share it with you for Girl Friday this week.

  71. So, SO much of this is incredible. Well, all of it is! (I can tell you I’ve been preaching the gospel of No. 4 for a long time!) I am so happy I’ve found your blog and I look forward to reading more.

  72. Lots of good insight I needed to hear. Funny, I just bought Lean In. Glad to know it’s good :)

  73. Now if only any of this was a how to on grabbing the proverbial bull by the horns when it comes to romance. *sigh* A complicated heart and interest are painful things indeed.

    However, I’ve shared this with those in my world and hope that it might help others in their own struggles to find themselves. ^_^

  74. Reblogged this on The Girl in Transition and commented:
    Well this is lovely. I have my mom to thank for sending me this link. Basically, I could probably be good friends with this girl. She says lots of on point things about being happy, healthy, independent women (but really most of this stuff is applicable for men too I think.
    *Although as a grad student, sometimes the overwhelming desire to wear leggings as pants is real, and maybe even uncontrollable.*

  75. Thank you, Hannah! I particularly like #5. I push myself so hard all the time, but never take the time to set goals along the way. My new goal is to set some goals and celebrate them!

  76. um..i love you… i dont know who you are but i just read your bio, and this post and fell in love with who you are and what you stand for! you go girl! sharing this with everyone… blessings to you
    xo Sarah

  77. um..i love you… i dont know who you are but i just read your bio, and this post and fell in love with who you are and what you stand for! you go girl! sharing this with everyone… blessings to you
    xo Sarah

  78. IN YOUR DEFENSE. MIssouri did join the SEC in football, so it’s a little bit south. It’d been worse if you had asked someone from Ohio if they liked the south! :)

  79. Reblogged this on Destination: Colombia and commented:
    A wise little list to refer to on those days when you say all the wrong things, your hair won’t cooperate and you want to give up and bury yourself in pillows.

  80. Actually, hot grease should be allowed to sit on a cool part of the back of the stovetop, until it is cooled. It should NEVER be poured down any drain or into any sewer, and I must say, pouring it out on the grass could really be damaging to the grass. It should be poured into the kitchen garbage bag, and on top of paper towels or newspaper. If it is of the shortening variety, then, once it’s cooled, it can be scraped into the kitchen garbage and tossed out with the trash.

  81. This is such a great post! Things I’ve said to myself, plenty of times! I’m still holding on to leggings as pants, because well, who got to define what pants are? But seriously…this is the best, “You are worth my words. You are worth my presence. You are worth, and will always be worth, more than just letters on a screen and a broken heart jammed in the crooks of an overflowing inbox.” Thank you thank you thank you!

  82. You got it wrong though, it’s tights that are not pants, not leggings. If the 80s taught us anything its that leggings are indeed pants. Thanks for #17, that’s the best one on this list!

  83. “you are breaking the heart of girl you don’t even know without ever really meaning to. ” Now now now, lets put the blame where it belongs, you are WITH someone who is INTENTIONALLY breaking the heart of someone he is supposed to love and loves him! If that doesn’t say enough about him, not much else will.

  84. Wait. Is everyone who reads this automatically worthy of respect for having read it? I’m pretty sure it’s going to be read by some people who are terrible human beings.

  85. Nicely written! A lot of it is even good advice for men. :) I do think #5 and #14 are slightly contradictory. If there is a person you want to be, then you should, as you state in #5, set goals to be that person. It’s possible to change and be the person you want. But I agree that it doesn’t happen overnight, and while you should never rest on your laurels, it’s okay to be patient with yourself too. :) Just my two cents worth. :)

  86. Reblogged this on sogugu and commented:
    The minute I started reading this on Kerry’s Blog, I felt inspired. Especially because today is one of those days when I realized that I have grown up enough to take calculated risks which promise good returns in the future. I have waited so long to get here. And this is something which left me feeling sufficiently rejuvenated.

  87. 26. Your daddy will someday leave you, and it could be at any time, so hug him as long and as hard as you can, because this is what you will remember the most. His amazing hugs.

  88. I really loved everything that you had to say. I was sad tonight and couldn’t sleep I had re posted this a while ago so I could read it and then just never got to it. I finally read it tonight and all of your words are so very true and right that it has made me realize that I owe someone an apology from this summer…I’m surely not perfect in anyway. I have always hated it when anyone has ever said mean things about me without getting to know me and I did just the same and of course never gave it a second thought. Thak you for your words each and every one of them went straight to my heart. This is something that I will re-read many times. P.S. tuna and BBQ…Awesome!
    Thank you so very much
    Kate from Texas

  89. Would have been nice without the “you aren’t being cute if you don’t dress in a way that I agree with” part. How about you don’t wear leggings if you don’t think they count as pants, and you also don’t thinly veil your insults as fashion advice towards anyone who doesn’t? The rest of the “inspirational” quotes felt pretty meaningless when one of the tags and main points seems to be policing how other people dress.

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