Sorry Sleeping Beauty, I am just not that big of a dreamer.

So who instructed me to look up to a maid who only got the chance to attend one party in her life and messed it all up by losing one of her shoes?

I am one, amongst millions of other young girls, who spent the bulk of my adolescence looking up to the Disney Princesses. I had the collection of Barbie dolls lining my shelves. I donned plastic heels with their pretty faces creepily printed on the front of them. And I allowed myself to be fed the message that most young girls spend well into adulthood digesting: Someday my prince would come.

Bad role models. I have discussed this numerous times with a close friend of mine, how these seemingly innocent princesses in pastel colored dresses really are not good role models. What lesson did they actually teach us at such a young and impressionable age? To sit around and daydream all day, maybe hum a tune with some talking animals, until a man rode in on his horse to rescue us? Hm, somehow I don’t see a man riding down the busy streets of Worcester on a horse, looking for me, any time soon.

Take Snow White for instance (my favorite of the princesses): What should I really learn from a young woman who spends all her time doing chores for little bitty men and then is naive enough to open her door to strangers and openly accept food from them? I have been tainted. I have been jaded. I have been filled with false hope and I am finally speaking up. Cinderella? Ariel? Sleeping Beauty? What do you girls really want from us? Don’t you see that you are extreme rarities in this world?

In all the Disney movies, Prince Charming always falls in love with the lady for her astounding amount of beauty. Cinderella and Princey never talked politics or the war in Iraq, all she had to do was dance with the guy and manage to be clumsy enough to lose a shoe right off of her foot in order to steal his heart. Well I have tried leaving my shoes in numerous places but I have yet to have them returned to me by a hunk who is still drooling from our last interaction.

Ariel and Prince Eric never sat down at Starbucks to get to know each other or catch a chick flick. In fact, if you all still remember the Little Mermaid, the girl did not even have a voice the whole time. She gave it up, her one talent, to grow some feet to impress this guy. What happened to not giving up parts of ourselves to please someone else?

And what about Sleeping Beauty? She did not even have to do anything to make the Prince fall in love with her. Nope, she merely slept her life away until the Prince tracked her down and rescued her.

Here is the point: I don’t think that a guy would ever fall in love with me if I was in a coma. I don’t believe that in real life a guy will show up on my balcony with a magic flying rug (at least I hope not). I think this idea of Prince Charming needs to rest in peace.

We are in the 21st century, a guy can certainly be charming but there is no need to play the damsel in distress role. These Disney divas were fools, bad role models, dreamers who got lucky. They did not have the awkward silences, they never shuddered to introduce the Prince to their embarrassing families and Prince Charming was certainly not shooting them a text to say “What’s up?” Falling in love is not one easy slice of pie and it is certainly not one bite out of a poison apple.

I give up on you girls, that’s right Cinderelly, I am talking straight to ya. Fall in love with me for my wit, my charm, my brains- anything besides the fact that I am missing one shoe and I do the laundry and cleaning for seven other men.

12 thoughts on “Sorry Sleeping Beauty, I am just not that big of a dreamer.

  1. “Well I have tried leaving my shoes in numerous places but I have yet to have them returned to me by a hunk who is still drooling from our last interaction.”

    Haha! Another great post, HK! I think you definitely have a point about Disney, they definitely have ideas about some aspects of the human condition that is entirely outdated. I think as a social commentary it has been acknowledged, I remember some of my female friends joining a ‘Disney gave me unrealistic perceptions about love’ group on Facebook! But the reason people enjoy them, at least I enjoy them, aside from the return of childhood feelings is the optimism. The sense that everything gets fixed in the end, people are not too stubborn to throw everything out there for love, and the sun WILL come out tomorrow. And for that reason I will continue to love them.

    1. Touche Stephen. I agree. I do enjoy watching the Disney flicks and being reminded sometimes that life can be crazy and fun and simple as the cartoons say. Thanks for the praise.


      Hannah Katy

  2. *Round of applause*!!

    Wonderful post!! You’re absolutely right. Have you seen “Enchanted”? They’re all cartoony and meet each other and decide to get married and live happily ever after, after one day – and then they both fall into the real world and once the princess starts having “thoughts” and going on dates and actually having conversations with people, she ends up with someone else lol. Probably my favourite Disney movie 🙂

  3. Most of the later Disney princesses have elements of feminism, while staying true to the “fairy tale romance.” Belle, Jasmin and Mulan come to mind as people who thought for themselves and followed their hearts. But yeah, the idea of a Prince Charming is kind of ridiculous, mostly because all the movies show the process of *falling* in love – not STAYING in love, which is a hell of a lot harder!

  4. I found this cute little diagram on another blog once and had to share it for this blog:

    Now, don’t mistake me for a feminist. I’m not. Far from it, actually. (Not that I mind feminists…it’s just not for me!) But I do think Disney princesses are NOT who we should aspire to be like. And I have been WAITING for a prince to sweep me off my feet for a long time…until I realized 1) that’s not gonna happen and 2) men have their own big faults, just as women do. And most of the time, they aren’t gallant and gentleman-ly. But it’s nice to dream about! 😉

    1. Ha ha. Thanks for the link , I will def check it out. Haven’t we all played the waiting game? Ha its a sad sad world to make us think that some hunk on a horse is going to ride up to our house one day… Oh well.


      Hannah Katy

  5. I’m new to your blog, but I had to comment and tell you that I am madly in love with this post. You are so right – Disney princesses (especially from the “classic” stories) were just straight up bad role models.

    Looking forward to reading more!

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